Making friends can sometimes be an overwhelming experience, especially if you’re an introvert. If you happen to go through this phase, you may want to stick around for 2 or 3 more minutes because we’ll tell you how to make new friends at university.
Work on Your Attitude
In a new situation, it is normal to feel lost and scared. The good thing is that it is common; so common, that even your classmates will feel hopeless at times. Your perception of the experience will dictate the ‘hows’, the ‘whats’ and the ‘whos’ of your university life.
Think about it this way. You get the courage to go out of your newly-made habitat, you have your eyes wide-open, scanning everything and you’re tense, so tense that you bump into the cafeteria window. A cafeteria full of people! If you just mumble something to yourself and then you completely evaporate, assuming that you made a fool of yourself and now everybody on the campus thinks that you are awkward, you are wrong. Even the people that will start calling you names don’t really put that much thought into it. Just own it. Laugh at it.
Recommendation: if you just laugh and enjoy the moment together with your colleagues, you will definitely convince some people that you are worth the effort. And the biggest bonus is that you will have fun and you will keep yourself healthy. Laughter is definitely our best friend.
Say ‘Yes’ to Rejection and Let Yourself Grow
This translates into allowing room for… failure. Yes, success allows you to grow, but failure is equally amazing. And if you had that awkward moment, immerse into it, learn from it, take responsibility for it and laugh at it. You will grow immensely if you don’t treat the little unhappy moments as a tragedy but as a resource.
Some people will reject you and, at that moment, you will feel crushed or embarrassed for trying. It is normal to feel this way, but don’t let the negative feelings take over you. Rejection is a form of filtering who should stay in your life and who should go. Sometimes, it would be your decision to make; sometimes the ball will fall into the other person’s court.
Rejections are like injections, slightly painful, but they increase your resistance.
Recommendation: do not overthink or overreact. It is not ‘happening only to you’ and it is not ‘something wrong with you’. It is the natural course of life.
Do not Sell Yourself Short
Cliché alert! Be the best version of yourself. This can’t be emphasized enough. We tend to forget who we are when we want to be accepted into a group of people or by a certain person.
First of all, you can end up having friends that are not really your friends or that are doing more harm than good. But more importantly, you won’t feel like yourself and wearing masks can become a very costly habit.
Recommendation: if you feel that the only way you fit in a group is by changing yourself in an unnatural way, it is time to let go of the idea of becoming friends with the said group.
Try New Things
The best way to put into practice the above is to explore. Use social media to find people that share the same interests as you or create a group yourself.
Take up a new hobby or just don’t quit your old one. Go to parties. Ask your classmates to go out for a drink or to an event. Volunteer. Create events based on your hobbies or subjects you are studying.
In other words, be creative and explore.
To conclude, we will tell you that you have to enjoy life and be gentle with yourself in times of failure and you will surround yourself with the best people.